[spaetzleesser]

"You must move beyond your shame and guilt that keeps you afraid and alone, and you must have a regular two-way relationship with a community of your peers and betters that you all use to help each other out of these sorts of blocking situations."

I'll second this. Realizing that you aren't alone is a big relief.

[hprotagonist]

noone is equipped to carry that burden alone; realizing that early is a superpower.