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by systemvoltage 1499 days ago
Oregon state has destroyed my good friend’s entire life. Child taken away, only get 4 hours a week of time with his kid. My friend is smart, kind and nicest person you’ll ever meet. Personal net worth fucked.

One of the reasons for me to consider leaving California.
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dragonwriter 1499 days ago
> Oregon state has destroyed my good friend’s entire life.

Sorry to hear that.

> One of the reasons for me to consider leaving California.

You do realize that California is not an administrative subdivision of Oregon, but a completely different state, right?

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systemvoltage 1499 days ago
No, I didn't know California was a separate entity. But, what I know is that it is worse than Oregon.

Instead of HN constantly defending California, I want us to take a hard look at what's wrong with this state and improve it; but I see a bad future and looking out for myself. I want California to be the best place on the planet to live. It is regressing at an ever increasing pace. I was talking to a SaksFifth employee in SF – he is working there since 1995. I talked to him for good 30 mins talking about how things were in Bay Area specifically. It is night and day compared to 90's.

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azth 1498 days ago
> It is night and day compared to 90's.

Are you able to mention some of the things he said?

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paulcole 1499 days ago
> One of the reasons for me to consider leaving California.

It's required on HN for rich tech guys to threaten this from time to time.

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azth 1498 days ago
Quite presumptuous of you to assume that.
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paulcole 1498 days ago
You can check the HN guidelines, it’s right there:

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

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JohnWhigham 1499 days ago
In the context of divorce court fucking over men, California is by and far the worst in the country.
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pc86 1499 days ago
Did he have a prenup?
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systemvoltage 1498 days ago
No, I don't think so but my memory is a bit hazy, this was around 2013 time frame. All I remember is that he would prepare, spend a whole week planning for things he would do, and when the kid was with him, he'd most sincerely enjoy those 4 hours, every second of it. Makes me tear up just thinking about it.

His ex-wife was a trainwreck, they faught and for so long, lost $100k+ in just attorney fees and yet, the Portland judge wouldn't give him a break. I couldn't fault a single thing in his character and offered to be a witness. His attorney did their best to put forth a case, had a psychology auditor evaluate his mental health, everything is flying colors. Still, the judge wouldn't give more time with his child.

FUCKED UP. Makes me angry just thinking about it. It made me realize that there is evil in this world in the most visceral way.

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