[PaulHoule]

It's pained me to listen to people who have elaborate ideas of promoting disengagement with their web sites (e.g. apologizing for having ads) in the context that engagement is such a precious thing because it hard to get.

If there is an "art of seduction" there is also an art of driving people away and the two are closely linked. Søren Kierkegaard wrote his notorious Diary of the Seducer to drive away his fiance Regine Olsen who never quite fell out of love with him despite Kierkegaard demonstrating what an awful person he was to come up with that text.