[watwut]

The issue here is, that good sounding high minded principle you describe in first paragraph fairly often amounts to enabling. It also puts great emphasis to understanding aggressor and literally none to understanding victim ... which turns into victim blaming and petty scrutiny of victim fairly often.

And I don't even have super big issues in mind. It happens in fairly normal abusive/low level corruption situations the most.

[dorgo]

So what? Blame the aggressor and stop thinking? It feels like another fallacy.