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by LeftHandPath
1513 days ago
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On several occasions I've found myself taken aback when someone asked me a deep/attentive question about myself. There are only a few people in my life that I actually care enough to hear their answers to those of questions, and I assume they are the same way. Sometimes those people creep me out and sometimes it forms a lasting bond. But I fully understand what you mean when you say you perceive it as BS. It just sets off alarm bells and makes my brain pay way more attention to decide whether they are being genuine or not (and if they are, to find out why the apparent bond is so asymmetrical). |
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I guess it really depends on how 'deep' the question is. If it is the 'how are your kids/how was your weekend?', I typically play along, because people expect a performance art ( or at least did pre-covid ). I might even make something up if I feel frisky.
But I don't really recall an adult asking me deep/attentive questions during work hours ( sadly, it is not a joke; my in-office interactions were highly scripted ).
Still, you made me think about the 'deep/attentive' questions from others. A decade or so ago, co-worker brought his kids to work. One kid was brutal and his questions made me re-evaluate some of my basic assumptions about my work/life balance.
edit: Obviously, I have no idea how I would have reacted if an adult stranger asked me the same questions.