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by Consultant32452 1515 days ago
In psychology there is a phenomenon called "the missing missing reasons." Usually this refers to parents whose children no longer have a relationship with them. The parents claim the child never gave any reason. Except the children always gave them plenty of reasons. The parents just weren't willing to accept those reasons.

I suspect you are in the same position here. I think you know exactly why you aren't getting interviews but you just aren't ready to accept it yet.

Also, you posted your Linkedin. We know where you work. And you just publicly called them "shitty." If I were your boss I'd fire you. And if I were a potential boss I'd never hire someone who did that.

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>Also, you posted your Linkedin. We know where you work. And you just publicly called them "shitty." If I were your boss I'd fire you. And if I were a potential boss I'd never hire someone who did that.

I think it's a bit harsh on the OP. This is an ex-work network and we are all allowed to vent. Having said that, however I feel the OPs frustration is probably unwarranted, the market is as seller-friendly as I have ever seen ( and I have been doing this for more than 2 decades).

I don't have a simple answer for you OP, other than to keep pushing and networking. It's just a matter of time...if you are determined enough.

Just good, solid, relationship advice that applies to both personal and professional relationships is to not get involved with people who badmouth their current or former employer/partner. You are just setting yourself up to be the next person they are publicly badmouthing.

If I want to vent about an employer, I don't name them on a globally available platform. It's unprofessional. If they did that to you, you could sue them.

This is a reason why, "Why are you leaving your current job" is a common interview question. You get minus points for badmouthing your current job.

You’re not wrong.