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by dosethree 1511 days ago
Just phrase it as a question

“Do you think this is too complicated?”

“Is there any way we can simplify this?”

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I would think this creates an issue.

Yes it’s complicated because it’s complicated. If it could have been simplied I would have done it already.

I would approach this like

I think this is overly complicated. Let’s see if we can simplify.

It’s direct. It says what I truly believe and it puts me on the side of having to do work to simply fit as a collective “we”.

Thoughts?

I like it. I think when most people use the word "direct" they mean using the 2nd-person and stating an "objective" truth about their actions or person. Whereas in you using direct, you meant more directly sharing how one is feeling/thinking on the inside, 1st-person disclosure.

For me, I often try to add a 2nd-person component in there, so it goes 1st-person (singular), 2nd-person (singular), 1st-person (collective).

"I think this is overly complicated, and I imagine you might as well. Shall we find a way to simplify it?"