[rayiner]

> How do they undermine the norm? They don't do this on purpose they are also just humans.

I don’t think they do this on purpose; I think they’re well meaning and don’t “want to judge.” The problem is that social judgement is what creates signals for what’s good and bad and what’s worthy and unworthy; what has value and what doesn’t. And people respond to signals.

Imagine that you’re just an average dude growing up in the middle of nowhere. College isn’t in the cards for you—you’re not cut out to be a Facebook engineer. But the local canning plant needs people to work. Do you think social signals don’t affect what choices you make?

[AvocadoPanic]

Military or a trade would be a better choice.

[hotpotamus]

https://www.esd.whs.mil/Portals/54/Documents/DD/issuances/do...

There's the 40 page document of all the medical reasons you won't qualify for military service, one of which I have. Everyone says just join the military, but I suppose 7 year old me should have thought of that before I chose to get bone disease.

[AvocadoPanic]

7 year olds often make poor choices.

Military and trade jobs require an element of physicality, it's the nature of the work. It's not for everyone, but neither is University.