[DevX101]

I've watched this show a few times. I'd highly caution against anyone going on the show if your objective is to actually find a match (as opposed to being on TV for the fun of it).

Patti (the host) will consistently throw the millionaires under the bus and humiliate them at any opportunity so that she can boost her ego. Her main objective isn't to make matches. It's to make good tv, and by extension generate drama. (Bravo's tagline is: 'We love drama')

[hajrice]

A lot of the stuff she does is basically shit-testing, and framing. Truth is 90% of the guys bight that stuff, and then you're out. "Women test men for all sorts of reasons, and it’s mostly an unconscious process. Attractive women have a lot of options, and prefer men who are STRONG OF CHARACTER. If you were an attractive woman being chased by hundreds of guys, how would you go about eliminating the losers? You’d TEST them, in subtle ways that test for strength and personality. If you did this on a regular enough basis, this behavior would become unconscious and automatic. Women will ALWAYS test you! Deal with it, learn how to handle it, and move on." [1]

Example I saw in the video.

Patti: "Are you nervous?" ...

Patti: "Do you think she's gorgeous?"

Bill: "She looks gorgeous"

By answering those questions, what Bill did is he bit into the frame and accepted her to control the situation. Notice how Patti leaded the conversation, and Bill played along.

tldr; Patti's not being a bitch, she pretty much doing what every attractive women does to a guy -- only she's doing it with no intention of dating them, rather to quickly dissect the guy

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[1] http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/fswiki.cgi?Shit_Tests

[marvin]

...and for this exact reason, I can't possibly believe why a "nerd" with the power and status of a startup CEO would go on a show like this. There aren't a lot of nerds who have the social skills to handle the stereotypical attractive Western woman's endless series of tests and burning hoops. And given that this is a TV show meant for entertainment, I don't really see the upside. At least unless you're able to not take this stuff as a joke.

Reality shows are built on the premise of testing people's strength of character, so most of our demographic would just ending up looking like chumps. Which, given the host, is probably the hidden premise of this show -- putting high-status men in a position where they are likely to fail. Unfortunately too much of Western culture is built on the notion of keeping up appearances and maintaining your perceived status, instead of actually having real skills and accomplishments under your belt.