[greenonions]

As a counter question: why do men not recognize that these simple tasks make women feel loved and respected?

My own father is the perfect example of a man who cannot deal with these minor irritations. My mother complies with his requests and their relationship is maintained.

If you read the article, it's not that the irritation is minor. Of course it's a very small task. The issue is that the (often male) partner never chooses to act differently for the sake of their partner. If it isn't difficult to do the task, why don't you just do it? If your wife asks you to put the dishes in the dishwasher, why don't you just do it? It's not hard and will make her happy.

Obviously some people will have very unreasonable standards/requests. However, I think it's more common that one partner repeatedly refuses to do anything differently for the sake of their partner, argues about it, and then wonders why their relationship is so bad.

[funcantor]

You've been in plenty of relationships, enough even, that you can make the claim that "often male" partners are not able to tolerate minor irritations?

[grumple]

What is this, slut shaming? I'm a man and not the person you replied to. I've had close to a dozen long-term partners and many more short-term ones. This is not uncommon in the western world for men and women.

Everybody gets annoyed by something. Men and women. Couples fight. Most of them a lot. Shit, in my apartment building I hear them fight all the time.