[jimkleiber]

But how does one try to change the rules of a place without talking about them? Is the only answer to leave the place and find one where the rules already align?

I don't ask this facetiously, as I studied intercultural communication in college and have lived in a lot of places, often asking myself how much do I stay in a place and try to change the rules versus leaving to find a place where the rules already align with what I want.