[BlueTemplar]

I don't know why you would expect schools to do a better job than parents for something like this ?

This is fundamentally a parenting question - and from my limited knowledge of it, pre-teens need a radically different approach than teenagers : for the first (whom we are talking about) you need to be a model, for the second you need to walk a fine line of not antagonizing the likes and values of the tribe they ended in, lest you completely lose any influence you might have too early on.

It's the transition between the two that seems to be particularly hard to pull off here...