[makeitdouble]

Your point sounds to me like: "It's your fault if you're miserable. It's up to you to confront your peers and fight your organization to protect your sanity "

It might be true in many settings, but I'd see that as a toxic and hostile environment we shouldn't be accepting as normal. Some people will sure enjoy Fight Club kind of places, I still wouldn't assume they are "a very simple fix" to shitty companies.

Quitting for a better workplace looks to me like a better course of action if the opportunity presents itself.

[onion2k]

Your point sounds to me like: "It's your fault if you're miserable. It's up to you to confront your peers and fight your organization to protect your sanity"

No one automatically just knows when people are unhappy with a process if they don't talk about it. There are lots of people who think agile ceremonies are a good thing, and they think they work, and in a lot of cases they do work. People don't question that if they don't need to. Consequently, if you're unhappy with it, you need to say something.

"Quit for a better workplace" doesn't work for minor things because every workplace will have something that you don't like. You'll never be able to find the perfect role. You have to find somewhere that's mostly good, and then change it to be better. If you can't then you should move on.

[makeitdouble]

There’s to me a decent gap between discussing processes, voicing opinions, and straight declining meetings and making yourself unavailable.

If you’re in need for tricks and tough love to get away from meeting hell, it’s already beyond “talking about it”, and beyond minor annoyances IMO. And sure it must happen because other people believe it’s a good, or at least a necessary thing. Working with people that value your time isn’t as exotic or rare as we make it sound, and it often will be enforced through the whole org to avoid having each one fight on their own.