[tdubhro1]

You’ll often read that successful people decide what they want and focus on it obsessively. It’s easy to overlook that phrase “decide what you want”. You really have to consciously decide that you want something and make it your goal. Motivation is emotional, and it will come and go over time, you can’t rely on it for the long haul, no matter how passionately you feel about something in the moment. You have to explore and figure out the rational reasons you want X or Y or Z, write them all down, and then decide which one you’re going to go for, and when you’re wavering, or getting distracted by other things that seem interesting and cool, reread the rationale for your decision, don’t rely on emotions.

[accepting_chaos]

This is the alternative approach to coming across some early success, this is a difficult route but as you become more self-ware and confident, maybe you can be more decisive? Maybe iteration is the key here too? Setbacks and failures scare me here but that is something to learn and get better at perhaps.

Another question here would be, did you find yourself becoming more decisive with time over certain topics? what helped in becoming so? (I have found myself to very less opinionated about things, that makes this process really tough)

[tdubhro1]

As you mature and gain experience it’s normal and healthy to have less “raw certainty” - but most of that is misplaced anyway and we’re just ignoring the uncertainties inherent in the world, and getting over excited by our own untested ideas. As I’ve aged I’ve found that it’s easier to focus on the questions that really matter, whether it’s “will this actually make money” or “will I actually enjoy working with these people at this company (regardless of how fashionable or prestigious it might be).