[samh748]

Don't know if it helps, but read the qualifiers. They exist for a reason.

> To me that sounded awfully condescending.

I think we all have our triggers, we all define and recognize differently what things like kind/mean/etc mean to us. It sounds like you get triggered when people tell you how feelings work, or how to interpret something, like what I'm doing right now. I can see that the things I say could be condescending, but it's one possibility out of many. You could say I am projecting, but my intention is to share my understanding of things with people, and I was careful not to make it definitive by adding all the qualifiers. Does that make sense?

I'm not perfect in this regard either. I just recently lashed out on someone on HN because I got triggered by what I thought was patronizing comments: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=30951970