[phamilton]

A good mnemonic I was told once was HTTP:

Helpful? True? right Time? right Place?

If any of those is a No, then confrontation will likely not be helpful.

[bumby]

This is right inline with the Buddhist suggestion of not speaking unless the five conditions below are met.

"It is spoken at the right time. It is spoken in truth. It is spoken affectionately. It is spoken beneficially. It is spoken with a mind of good-will"

[phamilton]

Yeah, this was directly adapted from that.

[olalonde]

That's the most HN comment I have read in a while.