[watwut]

> It’s just an acknowledgment of everyone’s fallibility.

You are not describing failure there. You are describing the "I made plans I feel like cancelling and don't care about other person".

Them reacting negatively is healthy self presentation instinct. Because if this is your strategy, you will cancel regularly and they are better off finding more reliable friends.

[mattcwilson]

Feels like we're maybe saying the same thing?

I'm saying:

* People are fallible. They will sometimes commit minor infractions, either accidentally or with sincere remorse.

* Good people will forgive minor infractions.

* This is not a license to commit infractions with abandon or remorselessness, or of any major size, and expect forgiveness.