[librish]

The problem is that this is what people say even when it does have something to do with you.

[jonahx]

I mean, in the same sense that it's "a problem" when a con man gives the same pitch as a trustworthy salesman.

The solution isn't for the trustworthy to stop honestly describing their products. It's to gain a reputation for honesty.

Also, you'll the know the truth from the context of your overall relationship, or, if that is thin, when they do actually reschedule.

[librish]

Yes but empirically the chance of someone rescheduling is low.

[mgfist]

So? It's not your responsibility for someone else's insecurity - and in fact, if you stop to assume that they think this way, you'll find that they 9/10 times do not.

[librish]

I'm not sure how responsibility plays in. Being bluntly honest lowers your chance of making friends, in my experience.

[nkrisc]

You can't control what other people think about you. Better to just tell the truth instead of trying to shape their opinion of you.