[jschulenklopper]

This is an article that resonated with me in handling another kind of loss: https://whatsyourgrief.com/growing-around-grief/

Lois Tonkin described a model that grief doesn’t shrink - what seems to be a common thought, and also mine - but that your life around that grief grows to become larger. So, handling loss is less about “moving on” and more “moving with”.

[dorfsmay]

That's part of why societies have, or used to have, codified mourning time. Give enough space to let you sink in the emotion, but then draw a line in the sand and get back on with life.

[white_dragon88]

Many do. As a westerner living in Vietnam, mourning is a process takes months and has clear protocols.

Versus going to a church service, then getting drunk at the wake and going home, it’s a far more emotionally intelligent way to allow grief to take its course.

[dorfsmay]

The same was true in the west, but it was codified by religions. We let go of both the bad and the good parts as we shrinked or eliminated the roles of religions in society, often without replacing them.