[shrimpx]

I would say there are 3 tiers:

a) Your condition prevents you from being a functioning adult in society. You have to be in someone's care in order to function at a basic level.

b) You're a functioning adult in society but you (or others, or both) perceive your condition as a handicap that hurts areas of your life and needs to be fixed.

c) Your condition is a mixed bag and you perceive it as beneficial in many ways.

I'd say (a) is definite "disorder" territory, (c) is leaning into "diversity", and (b) is a gray area. It could be "diversity" if you choose to embrace it and live with it, or a "disorder" if you're set on keeping it at bay.

[throwaway6532]

All 3 are disorder from where I'm standing :(