[colanderman]

Relational systems (e.g. SQL) solve the parent-child problem by making references explicit -- instead, keys are used to reference children in a well-known collection.

That is, if you're trying to emulate sharing of mutable structures (i.e. pointers) in a functional language -- that is, reflecting changes to children across multiple parents -- model the pointers explicitly (as integer keys) and put the shared structures in a map, which is necessary to interpret a parent in full.

This seems to be what the article is getting at with its "mediator" concept, albeit in very abstract terms. The author seems to find this distasteful, wanting to "hide" these relationships, but I disagree -- the difference between value and reference semantics is very important; making the difference explicit is a good thing.