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And I think it's important to say that even if it's a 1% chance, that bad experience can be terrible. Not only are you suddenly stuck somewhere without a place to stay, but you're stuck in annoying situation because of who you are. So you've got this frustrating situation of scrambling to try to find somewhere else to stay, and you also get to feel bad about who you are. You can tell yourself they're bigots and it's not your fault all day long, but the sting of rejection is always there.

I think that's the thing that a lot of (not all) average white straight able-bodied cis-gendered people dismiss. Every slight, every rejection, even if it's not blatant it's in your head: I'm being treated differently not because of what I say or do, but because of who I am. On a good day you might forget for a little while, but you let your guard down for a little and there it is again. It's inescapable and you have to build resiliency in every aspect of your life to not get crushed by it.