[watwut]

It seems kinda one sided:

> People prefer different channels of communication, often depending on context. Don’t communicate in the way that’s most convenient to you. Always consider whom you’re communicating with and what their needs and context might be.

Sure, but my needs should be somewhere in the equation too. If we are peers, it is reasonable to expect them to be as important as yours.

> I try to truly understand a position before arguing against it. Ask questions. Repeat back what I understood to be their point.

Does not leave space for you accepting someone elses position. Also, if primary reason you ask me questions is so that you can argue against, then it does not sound like symmetric cooperative debate seeking solution. Instead, it sounds like debate club where one needs to win by creating gotchas.

Again, I am back to one sided. There are a lot of expectations for other person to understand and tolerate your peculiarities. But little about you trying to actually understand them.