[verve_rat]

Honestly, I don't think your anecdote helps the point you are making. Yes well all do stupid things from time to time. I have done stupid things. I'm arguing that there are times when we should should show kindness and compassion and there are times when, fuck it, you were an idiot, you should know better, and I am going to judge you for it.

There is an idea floating around that all judging is bad. I reject that. It might not be helpful to the person being judged an idiot, but the expectation that I should change my view of others to help them with their learning is... I'm struggling to find the right words here... an imposition?

I think it is the difference between being kind to everyone and not being unkind to anyone.

Everyone judges people all the time, to claim otherwise is a lie. I will continue to judge people by their actions, whether or not they improve by some metric is not my aim, nor my problem.