[cannabis_sam]

> Kids from much older parents (40+) are also almost completely weird.

They are, in every quantitative and qualitative measure, far more well-adjusted than the poor children, like yours, who had no choice but to grow up with literal children as parents.

(Or maybe we shouldn’t generalize like this…?)

[hughrr]

No please do. You’re on the mark there. I was waiting for someone to make this point.

The weirdness comes from the social disparity and disconnectedness from peers their own age due to different social attitudes from parents.

The generalisation comes from the observation that older parents tend to lead to less progressive attitudes.

[cannabis_sam]

Well, you’re clearly way of the mark here, since you completely missed my point.

The weirdness is in your head, mate. (Although the generalization is your responsibility.)

I mean, people like you, i.e. people who become parents at a relatively young age, literally have their brain chemistry altered to protect their offspring, WAY before you have actually experienced life as an adult.

I could make grand speculative declarations about your children based on this, but I actually realize it’s meaningless, so I won’t.

[positr0n]

> people like you, i.e. people who become parents at a relatively young age, literally have their brain chemistry altered to protect their offspring, WAY before you have actually experienced life as an adult.

Do you have any links or terms to Google to support this? On one hand it sounds reasonable. But on the other hand for the entirety of human history up until the last several decades what you think of as "relatively young" would have been completely normal or even unusally old. So it wouldn't make sense evolutionarily for that to be disadvantageous.

Disclaimer: had kids young and I think people that want kids and are emotionally mature enough to handle the challenge with a similarly minded partner should not wait and do it young. What is a definition of "ready for kids" that wouldn't cause 99% of people in the world to never have the opportunity to have kids.

[cannabis_sam]

Jfc, please read the thread.

[anemoiac]

Are these assumptions based on your personal experience? I ask because mine has been completely different than what you describe.

[cannabis_sam]

Thank you, this was my point in the post they responded to.

[fouc]

I think there could be a couple of confounding factors here:

1) What demographics are these older parents in? Are they basically baby boomers or Gen X having kids late? Milennials are approaching 40 years old, so they could potentially be more chill as first time parents perhaps or not.

2) If both parents are old, then I could see the mother potentially feeling overprotective, feeling like all her eggs are in one basket so to speak. I'd kind of think that an older father would probably be more chill.

In 2006 I worked with a software developer that was 50 years old and was equally new to Ruby on Rails and also had his first baby on the way. He was chill and young at heart.