[em-bee]

isn't that where hobbies come in? or volunteering for some cause? or something like that. whenever i joined a group it was always the hobby/cause/etc that was the reason for me to be there. not just the people. that also helps to deal with people in that group that you don't get along with. you are not there because of them. but it's the shared experience of achieving something together that helps build friendships.