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1. exercise, outdoors or gym, preferably gym to socialise a bit (avoid show-off gyms, favour family oriented ones) 2. take on a hobby every month, something new, until something sticks: e.g. Boxing (oh that's good for morale), painting, drama, climbing, ... 3. go to whatever convention is going on this month in the city, ask questions, hang out. 4. take on any sport, literally anything that fits you. Do not drink alone, ever. I personally found I loved being alone riding motorcycles. I'd go on day trips and it was my therapy. I ended up riding everywhere, not having a car (I don't recommend that) and commuting every day on my bike, rain or shine. Finally: take it easy. A lot of people are feeling it, you're not alone, this is a normal thing. Most men after divorce with kids will be absolutely demoralised. Your purpose of "looking after the family" has been shattered and you need to find a new balance. For a lot of men pre-divorce, the kids and the "family running" was the only thing that kept them going. It's 100% normal to feel in the deep end afterwards. I'd advise to seek professional help, see someone, professionally, to talk about it, if you get to the point of depression. But do take it easy on yourself. |