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I might misinterpret you. But why do we need to soften the blow? Why do we need to appear reasonable and cheerful at dreadful life events?

They suck. We are allowed our "negative" emotions. We need to allow the shame and fear and anger and bitterness and sadness. We need to be able to voice these. And not forced to hide them for the sake of a society that doesn't want to see these. Or for our peers and their well being.

But as said. I might be tainted by experience and misread you.

[kjgkjhfkjf]

People generally are very sad when they go through awful life experiences. That's fine and it's often expected. It's common for people to weep at a funeral, for example, and it might be somewhat inappropriate to be cheerful and cracking jokes.

I think that seeing people happily go through dreadful events would be therapeutic for some people because it would reduce the anxiety that people experience when anticipating these events happening in the future.