[Blackstone4]

Forgive me I’m out of line, the way I read your post is as follows, your long term partner is someone who you have/had fun with and enjoyed life and activities together. However they are limited to that because you might not respect them any more..because they are irresponsible.

Ultimately when it comes to kids, it’s my belief that having a reliable partner is important plus being in a committed monogamous relationship. But you also want someone with a sense of humour to laugh and alleviate stress in hard times. Having kids is hard work for two people let alone one if your partner is afk…you will not have as much time to find other partners or do as much outside of work and family.