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It was not necessary for me to find a partner in the same field (CS/Engineering). Much rather I thought being a nerd, my opinions could have conflicted a lot had my partner been a co-worker. I ended up falling in love and marrying a language major.

My 2 cents: Look for compatibility. Partners should be able to tolerate or even encourage each other's tastes. I like books. She loves music. 4 years later, I know more about classical music by indulging her & she cursorily knows what's happening in the tech / ML scene & appreciate the challenges in my job.

We don't take ourselves very seriously. Keeping ego aside is very important. Making a clear division of responsibilities too. I nitpick on folding clothes & keeping organized. She takes care of the letters, paperwork & bills/credit card.

Conjugal relationship needs to be healthy but not an absolute make-or-break. Humor, honesty & keeping each other in good company are far more valuable. Looks fade, jokes go out of fashion, clothes & get-up even faster so - what counts is if the person is your "go-to-person" when any crisis falls. Fun times only last so much. Crisis & difficulties test the true character of a relationship. If you think this person is more likely to stick with you, whether fun or serious, that person counts in your life.

Edit: Its much easier for a serious person to loosen up, but quite hard for an irresponsible person to be responsible.