[selfhoster11]

I don't think I'd ask for a background check on a person I'm meeting. Instead I'd speak to their parents, and my parents, as a sanity check before things get too involved. Perhaps even talk to their friends a little to find out how they're perceived.

If I found out that my date did a background check on me, that would be a violation of my trust. I don't have anything to hide, but that doesn't mean you should be trying to uncover my background.