[slovette]

Yeah, I honestly think this is an overly complex analysis that’s genuinely simple in reality:

You get out what you put in.

We spend attention bandwidth to those we relate to. Those that don’t, we naturally let those text messages go unattended. We don’t think about it, we just naturally decline to foster any meaningful connection or development of one to those we don’t relate with.

It’s not all that smart sounding list of reasons, it’s simply subconscious behaviors that have created this reality.