[david38]

“No matter what” covers a lot of territory. What if your adopted child seriously harms your new baby because they have severe attachment disorder? Are psychopathic, whatever?

Lots of children available for adoption have all kinds of problems that standard parents can’t deal with.

Abandoning is one thing. Recognizing you’re in way over your head is another.

[mucholove]

When you are way in over your head, the way out is to push through the dip.

A startup will have that moment.

A theatre production will have that moment.

Pretty much everything will have that moment.

Kids too. My biological brother almost drowned me and we somehow worked it out.

Having kids is a very serious affair. They didnt choose to have you. You chose to have them. It is probably the most important arena in life. Time to step up to the plate.

[notch656a]

Almost being drowned once can't possibly be compared to forcing a kid to spend 18 years with parents who don't want them. I'm sure there may even be significant trauma from your near death experience, and I'm very sorry you experienced it. But the feeling a child has from a life in an unwanted family has to be, often times, as bad or worse.

If the board or the executive of a startup sees there is no chance of success with the executive, that person ought to bow out or be replaced so the company can have a chance with someone who can and wants to turn it around. If the startup becomes unviable and bankrupt, sometimes it's better to bow out and gracefully transfer the assets to a more viable executive and/or business rather than force something that isn't going to work.

I'm not saying that people should give up easily, but I think it's brave that some families recognize the better option for everyone is to re-adopt the kid a family that wants them rather than force them to live somewhere that's headed towards a train-wreck.

[dahdum]

> When you are way in over your head, the way out is to push through the dip. A startup will have that moment.

Most startups fail. Most restaurants fail. Most businesses fail.

> A theatre production will have that moment.

4/5 theatre productions lose money.

[ihateolives]

> What if your adopted child seriously harms your new baby because they have severe attachment disorder? Are psychopathic, whatever?

"Whatever" covers a lot of territory. Do you think "standard" children of "standard" parents don't do that? Where do you think all the school bullies and little entitled pricks and princesses come from? Some of them even manage to get elected in the office for some bizarre reason.

> Abandoning is one thing. Recognizing you’re in way over your head is another.

Abandoning your child is already a widespread thing, you just don't even think about it that way. It's when one of the parents walks away because they're "in way over my head". It's essentially cancelling the contract and saying fuck this, I can't do it.

So I really don't know where are you going with this.