[rootusrootus]

If the opening story about the 10 year old being put up for adoption 9+ years after being adopted as an infant is true, then I'm speechless. What an incredibly destructive, hateful thing to do. On the one hand, I don't think you should be able to do such things to a child. On the other hand, this is such a clear signal of how inappropriate you are as a parent that I guess the answer is to take the child as quickly as possible and seek to minimize the ongoing damage that is almost certainly already occuring.

[diob]

It's terrible, but on the other hand I wish my parents / step parents had been courageous enough to do it rather than cowardly trying to make my life hell instead.

[toomuchtodo]

The more resources available for parents who shouldn’t become parents to stay childfree, the better.

Everyone decries the falling fertility rate. Let’s talk about how many kids who are in foster care every year (~400k in the US), who are in toxic homes, or who are homeless. We have a long way to go.

(I donate to non profits who subsidize voluntary permanent birth control and who advocate for the childfree)

[civilized]

Talk about a "no good choices" situation.

[Tade0]

My relatives adopted a child who went through something similar at age 4. She's okay now, but it took years to get to that point.