[ajays]

I came here to say this. Dating multiple women takes the pressure off your primary pursuit. I know this may sound immoral or bad to some people, but: believe me, it works.

Just the fact that you have a couple of backups makes you a lot more relaxed, spontaneous and fun to be with. Maybe it's the ego trip; maybe it's the fact that you always have a backup. But whatever it is: you are a lot more fun to be with when you are, shall we say, multitasking. Just one word of caution: do NOT bring up the other women at all, for any reason.

[john_b]

It's worse to actively try to hide the other women than to bring them up. I have never done this myself, but my dad did when he was younger. He wouldn't bring up the other women on purpose, but if one of them wanted to spend some time together on Thursday and my dad had a date with a different one on Thursday, then he would be honest with her. He was honest with them all at the beginning though; you have to define what you want and expect early. Not all girls will be ok with this kind of relationship, but a surprising number will be. It probably has to do with common fears that women have concerning the guy becoming needy or too attached. Dating multiple women at the same time signals that your expectations are modest and you are not looking for anything serious, which takes the pressure off of the girl.

But beware: one of those women my dad was dating turned out to be my mom. No relationship can go forever without becoming serious or dissolving.