[55555]

"She shouldn't have worn such a short skirt" is not quite "He shouldn't have gone unarmed and alone to a meeting with ISIS in ISIS-held territory."

[vmception]

relevant exhibit for anyone that is merely avoiding victim blaming because they were told not to, without addressing why victim blaming is often based in mythology:

https://today.tamu.edu/2019/11/19/what-were-you-wearing-exhi...

so, in human interactions, its always the person that does the harmful, nonconsensual and/or illegal action that should have the focus