This is like a drunk ex bursting into your apartment, smashing furniture and demanding that you stop seeing that new boyfriend. Not a winning strategy by any means.
Anthropomorphizing countries, even for analogies, isn't all that great generally, but:
> This is like a drunk ex bursting into your apartment, smashing furniture and demanding that you stop seeing that new boyfriend.
...who you are not, in fact, seeing because they’ve said that, while they are interested, they won't get involved while you have so many unsettled issues with the ex.
Good analogy, sheds light on the fact that the narcissistic abuser doesn't expect to win the girlfriend back with such a manoeuvre, he just wants to scare off any potential boyfriends and render her alone and helpless. In which case the victory will be purely sadistic punishment with a good chance that she has been so demoralized that she will fall back in to his lap "like a ripe fruit from a tree."
It's why I disagree with various claims of Putin's "genius". I think these sort of stratagems are an instinctive part of the nature of narcissistic personalities.