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I don't disagree, but a problem can be solved – or at least improved upon, because I'm not sure this can be solved – on multiple fronts. Leaving the question of whether containment is possible on the internet aside for a minute, we could also work on improving society where the stigma connected to nudity and pornography – voluntary, non-voluntary and anything in between – is not such a burden it destroys people's lives.

To throw back your own example, topics such as rape, drug abuse and depression can be made discussable openly in society instead of keeping them hidden, shameful and isolating. It might also be good for young people to understand that what they do in private in the heat of the moment, might later on come back to haunt them, exactly by keeping the conversation going.

It seems to me people make a big deal out of it exactly because of society's overwhelmingly negative response, which is also something we could work on. In the case of rape, there is something going wrong between two people, but in the case of sexual imagery leaking, there's the added element of a voyeuristic society imposing moral judgement, the negative impact of public opinion, which is a problem beyond whatever happens between two people in their private lives.