[MrYellowP]

Books don't teach you how to be a decent human being. At best they teach you how to fake being a decent human being.

To learn, you actually need to go through hard times yourself. There is no understanding of others unless you can empathize.

That way you learn.

You think you can learn this from books, but it'll end up with you following a scheme you've learned from a book, which does not enable you to magically have empathy. You'll just learn how to fake it.

Instead of a book, I recommend talking to a professional about this.