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I’ve burned bridges by sharing too much with people all of a sudden. Baggage dropping on others all of a sudden is overwhelming for both sides. The listening party feels overwhelmed and unable to help and recedes into ‘please get professional help’, and the speaking party recedes into guilt and shame and thinks ‘I should have never told you anything’.

It takes a relationship where things can be off loaded in more manageable pieces. Boundaries are easier to set as well when both sides only move a few inches in each direction. If you are given too much info, you’ll just punt the football back 50 yards into ‘I can’t deal with all of this’.

With all that said, very few average people have the incentive to take on something like this. You would need an intimate relationship, but even there, even parents, best friends or SO’s can be overwhelmed.

Don’t even try this shit with coworkers. But if you must, you have to keep the topics very scoped and piecemeal. Just like project management.

I am speaking mostly from the baggage-dropping side.