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by hvaoc 1580 days ago
Newly minted dad of twins and uncle for 5 others.

Infant phase

The work is intense when they are young since they can’t do much on their own and need help very often. But this doesn’t last for too long. Most parents exaggerate this phase since it is very intense from their otherwise happy days without kids. I had enough nephews and nieces around that I helped with so my kids are not the first time I am doing something this intense.

Toddler phase

They are very manageable because of their size. Not those helpless poor little things any more. But they need to be entertained. Having others kids help a lot here. One more reason to have more than one kids. Only kids can match kids energy level.

Beyond infants

This is when things get interesting they start engaging with you a lot with words and actions.

Most of the problems with millennials for fear of having kids got to do with not having much experience before having their own. So they get overwhelmed, this is very specific to societies with lack of communities (western urban societies).

Once your friends have kids they are out of your circle since they cannot come out and do as much as they used to do.

With medical advancements and tools available to raise a child it is lot easier to raise kids than before. Over focusing on parenthood is also another issue. This is product of abundance of time and money. My mom of 3 children didn’t have tools and time to engage with us like our generation do. She did exceptionally well without over indulging in the name of parenthood.

Note: I am leaning game development and reading books while having full time job and having twins as my first children on my own at 40.

It’s totally doable. Try being around your friends with kids, that’s helpful for them as well as you.

Most rewarding thing and easily attainable for most of us is to raise children never forget the entertainment and stress buster aspect of having kids as well.

Once a wise women from the east said to us raised in the west: If you can have pets I don’t seem to understand your issues having kids. Kids are Pets+++

1 comments

We were definately a dog family, when we had our first born kid, untill she was 2 years old there were so many things we related to same as a puppy
A lot of people will roll their eyes and yell it's not the same, but you're right - depending on how much you care about puppies dying, I guess.

Caring for a < 2 month old puppy with parvo is a literal nightmare. Force feed it Pedialyte every single hour, watch it puke and crap its guts out, and pray it doesn't die. Basically 5 days without touching REM.

Yes definately how much you care about dogs/pets.

Everyone cares, but my wife had sworn off children and dogs were here "kids".

So we definately babied our puppies