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by Throwaway8373
1583 days ago
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It is definitely easy to go down the road of relativazation. * On reading: For most people we need better role models than our parents. For sexuality this is probably even ore true.
* Every person is not so different. It would appear that sexual dreams are in variation of 10 different "universal" ones.
* Studying the underlying dynamics is not about trying hard, indeed it is the contrary. You probably don't even know why the comment "Don't try to hard, just listen and be patient." is merited? If you read you will ;) You would probably be one of these people who find it natural to talk with women, court them, etc. Congratulations. It is like a heiress telling her poor friends not to study hard to get a job -- just get money from your parents! |
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All the books I have read could only demonstrate love, or try to articulate it, not outline a techne for it. I think in these matters music can be more instructive perhaps?
Either way, I still firmly believe that you cannot encounter each woman you meet as some token of the grand category "Woman," we are all just people, and our gender is defined by society, but love shouldn't be.
Remember with all things related to human passion and desire, the thing you should fear the most is actually getting what you want. The best you can hope for is to be surprised by people, to be understood by them, to be transformed by them.
EDIT: here is a book for you, its pretty good
https://www.amazon.com/Desire-Love-Lauren-Berlant/dp/0615686...
If anything, in your schema, it would make sense to read books on the subject that are written by women.