[p_l]

I often have a mismatch between communication styles leading to problems with such reciprocal expectation about contact like you describe - especially since I try to be conscientous about other people's time. In fact, the more I care, the harder it is to possibly interrupt someone who might be in middle of something important to them.

I see this system as a way of preventing backsliding into rarer and rarer interactions when they aren't pushed by common activities.