[tommi]

I have always wondered why people are so shamed of their past emotions. Ex-girlfriends are part of your life, part of who you are even if you don't want to admit it.

I suspect it to be somehow a configurable feature or you can always remove those manually.

[jm4]

It's not a matter of being ashamed of ex-girlfriends (maybe sometimes it is). The problem is my wife doesn't want to go on my Facebook profile and see pictures of a dozen ex-girlfriends. And I don't want those showing up in there automatically and having to explain.

[tommi]

I see your point and it's a good one but humor me.

What is there to explain? Why doesn't your wife let you be the person you are?

[jm4]

Of course she does. I don't even know with any certainty that she would dislike my having pictures of exes in my Facebook profile. I don't know that she would want any kind of explanation either.

What I do know is I roll my eyes every time a piece of mail shows up from her old IRA account with her previous married name on it. I know I would be uncomfortable with a bunch of pictures of old boyfriends and an ex husband mixed in with pictures of us and our son on Facebook. I realize she has a past and that's part of who she is now, but I am perfectly happy to leave some of those things in the past. I don't need or want daily reminders. I don't think she does either.

Given my own feelings about the issue, I choose to treat her the way I want to be treated.

[spokengent]

Where's the line?

Rating how good your past girlfriends were in bed? Describing how you had the best valentines day with a previous girlfriend, and not with your current wife?

People like to believe they're special. Talking too much about ex-gf/bf's is a recipe for disaster. They can't handle the truth!

Do you tell your wife her ass looks big as well? ;)

[kareemm]

> Where's the line?

Wherever you and your wife (partner) deem it to be.

[bengillies]

> Where's the line?

Apparently, it's wherever Facebook decides it is.

[georgieporgie]

Why doesn't your wife let you be the person you are?

I don't think you should take a condescending tone toward another man's wife in order to prove your bizarre point of principle.

[aiscott]

That would come at the expense of letting her be who she is.

[jojopotato]

I chose ex girlfriends as an example, it could be anything in your past that was "important" but you would rather not have highlighted (e.g. jail time, gang affiliations, being a Backstreet Boys superfan).

They give you control to add / remove things from the timeline so it probably won't be an issue, I'm just curious how they handle those topics.

[jarek]

> Ex-girlfriends are part of your life, part of who you are even if you don't want to admit it.

So are pilonidal cysts. But you may not want to broadcast all parts of your life to your entire Facebook friend list.