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by noduerme 1594 days ago
Hey bud. I'm in the same type of job and the same middle class monetary ballpark as you. (I think $1-$10M net worth is middle class these days, half that number if you're not married and don't have kids). I also sold everything once in 2004 and left America for ten years. And have recently been miserable as ** since being back here, despite having all the consumer toys I never thought I'd have, and a paid-off house and cars which I don't even want in my life. I'm also just thinking of how I can ditch them responsibly.

I do have this one weird habit, leftover from my van life in South America, Europe and Asia. I keep all my daily clothes in a suitcase on the floor of my closet. Folded and zipped up. I don't know why, I just can't hang them up. Everything you own is a weight. It keeps you from being yourself. Your true self is who you are weightless, on the road and just coping with tough situations, interacting with new people, seeing strange and amazing things. Better if you're with someone you can share that with. But OK by yourself. Certainly better that than being by yourself in a big house.

I'm not single either, or quite as free as before, but the strain of covid and the general decline of conversation and the rise of all this complete horseshit online, the anger of the world and the number of crank lunatics in it, the breakdown of my family into squads of ultra-left and ultra-right fanaticism, the general thoughtlessness and lack of courtesy, the homeless on my doorstep and the shots fired down the street every night, all make me wonder what the fuck I'm doing here.

I guess if I were you I'd be asking my wife about taking the kids and getting the fuck out for awhile. March 1st the truck drivers are probably going to take this country apart for awhile, it sounds like. It's hard to dodge a bullet between covid waves but this would probably be the time. My ex tells me (I call her drunk) that I need a vacation. But she lived on the road with me for ten years, so she knows it ain't just a vacation I need, not like people who just go to Hawaii for a week.

My personal advice given the lack of travel options and the hit and miss levels of covid now would be, you can rent a beach house near Cabo Polonio in Uruguay for eh, $200/wk if you're ok with rough wooden floors and don't care about fancy amenities, quite a bit more if you do. Get someone to house sit and take your family down there before the cold weather hits (it starts to get cheap now, it's dead and cold by end of March). If you spend a month there and don't feel like coming back, then buy a van and go to Brazil. Who the hell is qualified to judge you?