[captainredbeard]

Have you considered that you are going through a mid life crisis (or equivalent event)? A feeling of certainty surrounding difficult topics like this is sometimes misleading. Explore your identity crisis (and whatever escapism is driving the aforementioned internet / games / porn avoidance) with a counselor instead of going straight to destroying your poor wife's heart.

[throwaway020222]

That's why my current plan is to wait at least until she finishes her studies (she will be done by the end of this year).

I hope 1 year is a long time to differentiate whether it's just an identity crisis or not.

> (and whatever escapism is driving the aforementioned internet / games / porn avoidance)

I didn't feel any crisis or anything like that before starting with the addictions avoidance. It's just that I can spend sooo many hours playing video games or watching one and another youtube video all the day and then end tired and go to sleep. And on and on without ever stopping to think about how I feel, what I like, etc.

I'll definitely start therapy for myself at first, and later with her.