[noselfpromote]

You feel your life is done while you are unhappy, you come seek help on HN because you logically understand that you have much more things to do in life.

Work part time. As a developer, you can make 7-10k usd a month working part time, without much effort, from any part of the world. This is pure luck, we live a time with free money, VCs are pouring the tech with billions and billions, grab the cash.

No western country: Move to a place with sun, parties and good food like mexico or thailand. It's much more easy to make new friends in your 30s in a foreign country because western migrants are always grouping together, in small communities easy to find and to join. Bonus point, go to a place with peaceful locals, no stressed commuters and welcoming people. Learn the local language, make new friends in the new country.

Improve yourself, now you have free time to travel deeply in yourself, understand the whole psychologic movement happening in your brain. You have time to experiment and ultimately learn how peace and hapiness is generated in your brain and body. You will also learn how to understand other people, which will lead to new friendships.