[omgitsabird]

> short guys looking for girlfriends, unattractive/aging women looking for husbands

These sound like buckets you created to fulfill your own subjective stereotypes.

> Doing things by myself is boring and depressing, and getting into a group of "normal" friends, of both genders, to hang out and laugh with, seems like an impossible goal.

This is a harsh thing to say, but maybe its you. You disparage people who are looking for the same thing in the previous paragraph.

> I feel that finding a non-coding job would be ultimately the best way to find new social groups

As someone who has worked many non-coding jobs, I can assure you that it is not.

[burner-acc-123]

this person was not very nice to OP. OP is totally normal for feeling this way and his post should elicit sympathy, not contempt.