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Hey. I’m sorry to hear how finding friendships is challenging and feels impossible.

I believe it’s okay not to be “normal.” Do what is restful for you, which may not be normal at all. Then be looking out for others who like those things too.

Folks say relationships take time, but I believe it’s something which can happen gradually and then suddenly.

I don’t know what you enjoy doing outside of code. But doing things which are not code helps me rest and helps me find other folks over time who also like that rest. And the friendship grows deeper with these shared experiences.

A new job or address can help you meet new people. But think about what’s restful for you and then be looking out for people who like doing that.

I say restful because then the activity is motivating even without a friendship, but as you go do those things you tend to bump into people who also enjoy those things. And who doesn’t want to be around people who are just as motivated about something as you are? It’s a joy I wish for everyone and I believe it happens gradually and then suddenly. :)