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by greggman3 1612 days ago
Let's take it to an extreme and see if you still agree. You're married. You get assigned to go to Mars for 3 years. There it will be just you and a very attractive, very outgoing, very willing, and someone exactly your type (whatever that is), member of the opposite sex who is single. You will spend every day and night with them in a space the size of a recreational vehicle (1 bedroom apartment) for those 3 years and won't be able to talk to your spouse live (around trip communication to mars is 10 minutes?)

Do you really believe most people would stay faithful? At best, they might break up before starting a relationship with the person they're spending all the time with but it's highly unlikely at some point they wouldn't start something one way or another.

If you get that example then everything else is just a matter of degree. If my spouse wants to see an old friend of the opposite sex a few times a year I'm not going to worry. But, if they are talking to them daily, which is what the post above was about, then IMO, something is wrong with our relationship and I should be worried.

If the mars example doesn't work for you then my gut says just wait a few years and a few examples will come. Of course maybe you just know special types of people I've never met.

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> Do you really believe most people would stay faithful?

Yes.

You're asking me to believe that most people will betray their principles, commitments, vows, etc when it becomes convenient.

I have no evidence that that is the case.

If anything, there are numerous examples in literature of people staying faithful for years apart.

My hypothesis on this is that this belief that people will cheat is projection on the part of people that would.

> But, if they are talking to them daily, which is what the post above was about, then IMO, something is wrong with our relationship and I should be worried.

This is exactly what I'm talking about. In that scenario, there is nothing wrong with your relationship. But yet you say there is.

> Of course maybe you just know special types of people I've never met.

Right back at y'all.